Breakups can be tough! Not only for the people who are involved in the break-up but for others within the circle of friendship, or family members. Here are some things NOT to say to someone going through a breakup:

1) “It will get better” 2) “It was meant to be” 3) “I didn’t like them anyway” 4) “Don’t cry about it”

Those sayings are not helpful for the person experiencing a break-up because it takes away the feelings someone is having and makes them not feel heard, or understood. You want to empathize the best you can and be a support system for that person, not add to their pain or try to take away their pain.

What to say/do instead

1) “I can’t imagine the pain you are feeling right now”

2) “I’m coming over with _(Favorite food)_ I will be their shortly”

3) “You have such great qualities, it sucks that ______ didn’t see that in you.”

4) “All of the things that you and ______ had planned this has to be so heartbreaking.”

5) “Cry as much as you want, I am here for you.”

Helping and supporting that person during their breakup shows that you care about them and you support them no matter what. Try to empathize, and listen to what that person is going through, Sometimes sitting in those emotions, and active listening can take a lot to do. Make sure you are also taking care of yourself during that time to help be able to help and support that person when they are needing you. You are also important in this process as well.

If you see your friend or family member get worst reach out to a mental health provider for them to receive support.